6: How to make friends as an adult (with my fool-proof 3-step process to finding your peeps)




In 2023, Gallup did a poll and 25 percent of adults reported feeling lonely. That means that one out of every four of us feels lonely! And it is so bad that Vivek Murthy, who is our Surgeon General, called it a public health crisis. He said that loneliness has such far reaching consequences that the health impact is the same as smoking 15 cigarettes a day – 15 cigarettes a day! And you don’t even get the high of cigarettes! So, it’s literally all downside, right?  

Loneliness is also associated with increased risk of heart disease, depression, and cognitive decline. Personally, I do not need any more help with my cognitive decline, thank you very much. 

But I also think it’s weird because, as a parent, we’re basically NEVER alone because we always have people with us - it’s almost too much stimulation most days. The problem is, it’s not always the ‘fill-you-up’ kind; instead, it’s the kind where you’re constantly giving and putting out and that can feel really lonely.

So, you know what you need? Friends! 

Yes, you do! You need the kind of friends who make you laugh, who make you feel better, that leave you feeling seen and take away the lonelies. But, I know, I know, it can be hard to make friends as an adult.

So today we’re going to talk about how you can actually make new friends as an adult, easily and without too much risk. I’m going to give you my foolproof system for meeting new people and also sussing out if they’re actually your peeps. 

By the end of this episode, you’re going to be chomping at the bit to get out in the world, to leave the couch, to leave Netflix, and to get out there and meet new people. 

What’s Covered in This Episode:

  • The surprising health impacts of loneliness
  • Why making friends as an adult can be so challenging and why you still need to do it
  • How to suss out the kind of friends that fill you up and let you be yourself
  • My three-step plan for meeting new people that you can start using today
  • Tried and true tips for where and how to meet new people and turning them into lifelong friends
  • Practical advice on where to meet new people (aka soon-to-be-friends)
  • Why it’s imperative you’re intentional in your friendships (and how to actually do it!)

Ready to step out of your comfort zone and make some new friends? Listen to the full episode now for all my tips and tricks to start building those connections today.


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